Individual Relationship Therapy in New York and California
Stop repeating harmful relationship patterns and start creating more intimacy and connection
Your relationships (with yourself and others) are the bedrock of your emotional life and world. When they’re going well it makes dealing with all the other difficulties in life feel more manageable. You feel more resilient, supported, and connected.
But when they’re not, it can feel like you’re on a deserted island all by yourself.
Are you someone who’s more self-reliant and uncomfortable opening up to others?
Better in other parts of your life, like work, than at the emotional vulnerability required to build deeper relationships.
Often times trouble in your relationships can be a sign of deeper unresolved issues. They may be an indicator of struggles with self-esteem, attachment issues, trauma, codependency, people pleasing, intimacy, or boundaries.
Issues in relationships might look like…
Emotionally shutting down, avoiding, or downplaying your feelings.
Not speaking up for yourself and clearly expressing your needs.
Difficulty saying “no”, avoiding conflicts and hard conversations.
Giving support to others, but feeling incredibly uncomfortable being vulnerable or sharing your own struggles.
Reflexively apologizing all the time, even if you haven’t done something wrong.
Being critical or judgmental of others.
Having the same fight over and over again with your partner or family.
You know that something isn’t working your relationships and needs to change, but you’re not sure how to go about fixing it.
If any of these sound familiar, you’ve come to the right place.
Therapy for relationship issues can help you:
Explore the unhelpful patterns and behaviors playing out, breaking the cycles keeping you disconnected and stuck. Go from feeling alone, frustrated, unsupported, and lost to feeling confident communicating your feelings and needs, setting boundaries, and build a fulfilling and intimate relationship that both challenges and supports you.
Our work together can help you discover what’s at the root of your relationship issues and work collaboratively to practice new skills and ways of relating, while healing from any unresolved issues in the past. My approach is rooted in attachment and emotional development, offering a reparative experience of what you didn’t get enough of as a child. You’ll learn what it feels like to experience the unconditional love, emotional safety, deep understanding, empathy, and compassion that are vital to healthy relationships.
Things we can work on in relationship therapy:
Explore the roots of poor relationships and relationship patterns in your life.
Identify your wants and needs, and how to communicate them effectively.
Identify healthy relationship qualities and behaviors, allowing you to make different choices in how you show up and who you choose.
Becoming more comfortable opening up with others, asking for and receiving support.
Learning how to work through conflict in healthy ways.
Working through trust issues, with yourself and others.
“Healing is not just the courage to love, but to be loved”