To finally feel known by the people closest to you.
Individual Therapy for Relationship Issues
Online in New York City and California
The Distance Feels Familiar.
It's there in the relationship where you've said the same thing a hundred times and still don't feel understood. Where you've had the same fight so many times you've stopped starting it, because you already know how it ends. The distance settles in, and after a while, it starts to feel like just the way things are.
It's there in the way you keep showing up fully for people who don't quite show up the same way for you. Managing the emotional temperature, anticipating what everyone needs, and smoothing over the friction. You're good at it. You've always been good at it. But lately it's started to feel less like a strength and more like something you can't put down.
And it's there in the quieter moments. The ones where you realize the people who know you best still don't fully know you, and you're not sure how that happened.
You've thought about this. You can probably trace some of it back. Yet the gap remains.
That's usually when people find their way here.
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How this work leads to change.
Most people arrive with a lot to say. There are years of specific moments, specific people, specific hurts that have never quite been resolved. Early sessions often feel like finally having somewhere to put it all, and for many clients, that sense of being genuinely heard is itself something new.
But the work doesn't stay at the level of content for long.
The process becomes experiential. A significant part of what we do together is use our relationship as a live practice ground. We pay attention to what happens in the room, how you show up, what you do when something feels uncomfortable, and what it’s like to be known by someone and to let that in. This honest, attuned work creates something reflection alone can’t: actual experience of relating differently. That experience is what transfers.
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Over time, this changes your sense of being in a relationship: one where you are actually known. Where what you share is received with real care rather than passed over. Where what you’ve wanted from the people closest to you starts to feel possible because you’ve begun to feel it here first.
From there, something loosens. Clients start to say things they’ve never said out loud and find, often to their surprise, that the relationship holds. That honesty doesn’t push people away the way they feared it would. That showing up differently here makes showing up differently out there feel less like a risk and more like something they're ready for.
A major part of my approach is informed by the model Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP). At its core, AEDP is about helping you move out of aloneness and into connection—building the trust, confidence, and relational strength to create relationships that genuinely feel good to be in.
What you’ll gain
Therapy for Relationship Issues can help you…
Feel your needs clearly enough to express them, and trust that expressing them won't cost you the relationship.
Move through conflict rather than avoid it or survive it.
Stop managing how you're perceived and start letting people know you more fully.
Respond rather than react, with more space between the moment and your answer.
Stay close to someone without feeling like you're losing yourself in the process.
Experience relationships that feel more equal, more nourishing, more like what you actually wanted.
Get in touch
The relationships you want are worth working for.
I’d love to help you get there.
FAQs
Frequently asked questions
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Individual relationship therapy focuses on your side of the dynamic — your patterns, your history, your experience of the people closest to you. It's especially helpful when you want to understand why you keep showing up the same way in relationships, when you're navigating something your partner isn't ready to address together, or when the work feels like it needs to start with you before it can go anywhere else. Couples therapy focuses on the dynamic between two people and requires both partners to be present and invested. The two can complement each other, but they're asking different questions.
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Yes. You don’t need your partner to be present to make real changes in your relationship. In fact, some of the biggest shifts happen when one person starts to change how they show up—what they accept, what they share, and how they respond under stress. Your partner’s willingness to join therapy doesn’t determine your ability to change. Often, when one person starts this work, the relationship dynamic shifts as well.
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I do not provide couples therapy, though I am happy to give you some referrals for couples therapists. I believe there is great value in having both a couples therapist and an individual therapist if that is something you can make that work.
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Absolutely. Some of the most important relationship work happens when you’re not in a partnership. If you notice patterns in your relationships that don’t serve you, hold back with new people, or carry old family patterns you haven’t worked through, these are all worth exploring. The patterns you bring into your next relationship are being shaped right now, whether you’re single or not.
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Knowing a pattern exists and being able to change it in the moment are two different things. Many people who come to therapy have already thought about their patterns and where they come from, but still find themselves repeating them. That gap between understanding and real change is where therapy helps. Together, we look at what the pattern is protecting, what keeps it going, and create new experiences that make real change possible.
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Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) is a relationally focused, experiential approach to therapy that works at the level of emotional experience rather than insight alone. Instead of mainly analyzing what happened in your past, AEDP focuses on what's happening in the present moment — in your body, in the room, in the relationship between therapist and client. In relational work specifically, it helps people move out of the emotional isolation that keeps old patterns in place and toward something that feels more like real connection. I am Level 2 trained in AEDP, which represents advanced clinical training in the model.
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Attachment theory helps explain how your earliest experiences of closeness, safety, and connection shape how you relate to people now. If you pull away when relationships get close, work hard to keep people from leaving, or often doubt your own needs and worth, these responses often come from early experiences where they were needed. Understanding your attachment patterns isn’t the same as changing them, but it’s a helpful way to make sense of why some dynamics feel so familiar and why they’re hard to change on your own.