Self-Esteem Therapy in
New York and California
Step into a more secure, confident, and empowered sense of self
You’re so good at masking the deep insecurities you struggle with that most people would never know you had self-esteem issues.
But the expectations you place on yourself are so high you seem to never live up to them. And the truth is you’ve done pretty well for yourself despite your insecurities. You’ve got a well-respected job and climbed the corporate ladder. You earn a decent living, have a nice place to live, and have a relationship that matters to you.
For all intents and purposes, people would say you’re successful.
So why do you still feel so anxious or depressed a lot of the time?
Self-esteem issues can show up in a variety of ways:
Constantly criticizing or beating yourself up, picking apart everything you do, what you say, or the way you look.
Being emotionally shut down and disconnected from certain feelings, sometimes coming across to others as aloof or cold.
Believing that your self-worth is tied directly to the value you can bring to others; if you don’t have something to offer or bring to the table you feel worthless.
Having a hard time trusting yourself, second-guessing yourself, or doubting your capabilities.
Using substances or distractions to avoid dealing with your emotions, like drinking, working, scrolling, or projects.
Anxiety or depression symptoms such as: racing thoughts, low energy or motivation, frequent feelings of guilt, tightness in your body, anger.
Seeking external validation as reassurance, while also downplaying or becoming uncomfortable when compliments or praise are offered to you.
You’re self-aware enough to know that most of your issues with self-esteem root back to your childhood. Growing up with a parent who likely had their own mental health issues or problems managing their emotions, you didn’t get enough of the good stuff to internalize your inherent value and worthiness.
And it’s causing issues in your relationships, the way you show up at work, and how you feel about yourself in the world.
Therapy for self-esteem can help build a better relationship with yourself and the people you love.
Working together, you can go from worrying about whether or not you’re good enough to knowing deep in your bones that you’re valuable, worthy, and lovable. By learning to feel more comfortable with all of your emotions and yourself, you’ll experience more vitality, resilience, and authenticity.
My approach is rooted in attachment, offering a reparative experience of what you didn’t get enough of as a child. Processing any trauma, neglect, loss, or oppression you’ve experienced will open the door to growth, healing, and the full spectrum of life.
Self-Esteem therapy can help you:
Identify your wants and needs, and communicate them effectively.
Trust yourself to make decisions without the validation or input of others.
Love and accept all the parts of yourself (even the ones you don’t like or want to change).
Effectively manage your emotions and the way you respond to them and difficult situations or people.
Speak up for yourself and take more risks towards your goals.
Feel just as comfortable giving compassion to yourself as you do for others.