“Behind every mask there is a face, and behind that a story”
How can I possibly know what you’re thinking?
No I’m not a mind reader, but my ability to tune in to people and connect in deeply empathic ways can make it seem like that sometimes. The truth is, I used to be a lot like you…
Bottling up emotions, refusing to share my struggles with others
Always striving to be better, work harder and accomplish more
Strong and independent, taking the “I can handle it all” attitude
Burnt out from always pushing myself, falling into unhealthy coping patterns
Taking care of everyone and everything else before even beginning to think about taking care of myself
I was an expert at all of it.
It wasn’t until I was a couple of years into my dream job working in maximum security prison that it all came to a head. I finally saw how much I was letting life pass me by, consumed by my job, subconsciously holding on to multiple emotional traumas that were eating away at my mind, body, relationships, and emotional health. I knew I had to make some big changes and decided to take control.
I finally decided to step fully into the drivers seat of my life and forced myself to do the hard work. I learned how to turn the autopilot off, how to manage, feel and process all of my emotions through mindfulness. I practiced more curiosity, courage to be vulnerable, and self-compassion than ever before. I sought help and guidance from others, and remained open and connected to my feelings the whole way. And doing so not only helped me fully connect with my authentic self and others better, it completely turned my whole life around.
Struggle, burnout, anger and disconnection are all easy; Change is hard. But it can be simple and life transforming if you have the right guide to help you along the way. If you keep hearing the words “Something’s gotta give” repeating in your head, let me show you the way through.